Downsizing: A dirty hit to your family
Your ego may be somewhat bruised after your firing. However, on top of that you must communicate the Blessed Event to your family. It is a difficult and often a humiliating endeavour. My teenage daughter Lexia was in shock wondering how “they” could do this to me. If there was anything positive she gained a glimpse of how brutal largecorp could be. I found it touching how she offered to turn over to me her savings account.
My spouse was shocked but also working for a largecorp was not completely bowled over. I had previously related to her my meeting with Brian Cochon of Ooze & Ooze months ago when he said to me “you’ll” be terminated if you don’t refund pension fund expenses to his client. It was becoming quite apparent it was not the termination of the business relationship between his client and CRAP but the termination of my employment relationship with CRAP. Poker and Cochon were working hand in hand on this one. And it was clear to me my conspiracy theory was right on the money.
Your spouse may be your strongest supporter of you as you struggle back to your feet like a deer hit by a car. Yet at times, due to your sensitivity, negative comments from family and friends can cut deep. Don’t expect a happy June or Ward Cleaver. Your blood from the corporate hit is splattered all over your spouse too. The insult to you is also an insult to your spouse. Your embarrassment and humiliation may become a family affair. This is a hard cross to bear.
I sense for many termination victims a deep distrust, hatred and cynicism concerning largecorp and its Senior Management Team is born. The SMT is the perpetrator of the shattered family. It isn’t in the Marxist textbooks or the in the pocket of largecorp MBA curriculums that will define the future of Canadian corporate life. It is in the vast collection of dirty little Blessed Events, the increasingly public disclosure of soaring executive compensation and the racist, sexist and homophobic composition of largecorp’s SMTs and boards of directors and that will shape perceptions of largecorp and possibly that of its very survival.
However, as employees fear of losing the next paycheque keeps employees in line there is silence in the ranks (at least publicly) concerning the butchery and mismanagement by largecorp of its employees. Hopefully in some distant time and place the private truthful cynicism about largecorp will outweigh the tons of largecorp propaganda and perhaps at that time the secret greed and manipulation of largecorp by the SMT will be in full public view. Apollo’s wings will be melted by the heat of securities regulators and crown prosecutors.
In the meantime, what more can you do but limp on and hope for a new job and of course a chance for revenge? Again, as for anger, control and manage your urge for revenge. Both these emotions can be powerful motivators in your job search if properly regulated.
Both you and your family have been hurt. Best that you do not get wound up in family embroilments if they bubble over. Better times are coming.