RKS 2023 Film: “She Is…”: Another Painful Journey Along the Child Sexual Abuse Road

Unfortunately, documentaries dealing with personal stories of child sexual abuse are not uncommon. Previously to viewing “She Is..” I have reviewed the Canadian film “Because We Are Girls” and the American film “Relative” and all three films point a finger of the abuser as friends of the family or family members. Years ago we were often told as children beware of strangers. Yes beware of the pervert with a lollipop trying to lure children into his car but the greater danger so as to speak lies more within.

Isabella Grosso tells us her painful recollections of child abuse. Between the ages of 5-17 she recalls 7 different abusers as men and women including some teenage cousins. None of the abusers were strangers.

In 2014 Grosso, a dancer, then founded “She -Is”. Grosso found comfort in dance which gave her a degree of peace and a sense of empowerment to re-connect with her body. The “She-Is” organization seeks to bring some peace to victims of sexual abuse and sex trafficking through dance. In addition to operating in the United States she has taken her “mission” to a certain Southeast Asian country where child sexual abuse is particularly rampant. It is never stated in the film which country it is in Southeast Asia but I surmise it is Thailand. Grosso has partnered with Destiny Rescue in Fort Wayne Indiana which rescues both young men and women from sex trafficking. So we see Grosso in action with young girls and women in a certain Southeast Asian country assisted by Destiny Rescue.

We hear from a therapist in the United States who chillingly states that sexual abuse is a national pastime in the United States surpassing baseball. It is twice as common with girls as opposed to boys. Sexual abuse can be generational often resulting in a more fatalistic attitude of mothers thinking it is part of life. The therapist makes an interesting point that sexual abuse takes place in a relationship and the only way to escape and try and heal is through a relationship(s).

For Grosso dance is not a cure as she still suffers from the trauma of sexual abuse but bravo to her for trying to reach out.

I would be remiss if I did not mention that Grosso and her bright eyed and bushy tailed American fellow dancers have a certain naïve zeal almost missionary like. A look at the Destiny Rescue website leaves me with the impression that it is a Christian fundamentalist organization. I wouldn’t have given much to that but having watched documentaries on the displacement of indigenous populations in Brazil due to hydro electric projects and the wreckage of towns housing the displaced where sexually transmitted diseases, violence and addiction run rampant it is the evangelical Christians there to save the day. One is left with an unpleasant feeling they are there looking for converts like vultures as opposed to fighting the conditions and politics leading to the displacement and degradation of indigenous populations.  A Destiny Rescue volunteer seen in the documentary in this Southeast Asian Country is an American wearing a “This is America” t-shirt and criticizing local culture partially as a cause of sexual abuse. That begs the question what about the culture of the United States that fosters abuse. Holier than thou?  What about the culture of debauched Americans and Europeans doing the abusing in that “certain Southeast Asia country? Enough said.

The documentary is an exclusive release by Gravitas Ventures on digital/VOD platforms including Apple iTunes, Amazon Prime Video, Google Play and more on 17January2023. The film is directed by Zuzana Lova.

You can see the trailer here https://vimeo.com/773947528/782a5dadc9

RKS 2023 Film Rating 73/100.

“The Penniless Pensioner: Misaligned, Maligned but Marvellous”: Chapter 35: A Break from the Killing and Violence: There are Now Two Daddies!

It was time out for a bit of sightseeing outside Naples suggested Ginevra and I agreed. We would be tailed only by two men in a car. Ginevra explained to me a cardinal rule of the Neapolitan Camorra that in the case of hostilities between family’s woman and children would be spared violence and death provided they were not directly involved in the narcotic trade. Ginevra was not involved in the narcotic trade….at least not to my knowledge. Security was much less stringent than it was in Naples. But didn’t Don Lupara just execute two fourteen-year-olds, Guido and Lino. In his own crew? Why was Ginevra carrying her ancient Smith and Wesson six shooter in a shoulder holster? These Neapolitans are complicated people. We would visit Vesuvius, Sorrento and Capri and take separate rooms “out of respect for Daddy”.

The ruins at Vesuvius: Photo Robert K. Stephen

Vesuvius was eerie. So many people died. The ruins were a stark reminder of the horror for those who choose not to flee. Some bodies were mummified in ash. Ruins indicated that Vesuvius was a flourishing town. We went to a wine tasting at a consortium of vineyard owners that grew their grapes in the volcanic soil on the slopes of Mount Vesuvius. We stayed at the Vesuvius Four Seasons and had a fabulous dinner in the Michelin starred “Hot Lava” Restaurant. We both enjoyed the post dinner “spook tour” in Vesuvius. Our security detail kept a discrete distance from us.

Our security detail Ciro and Generra: Photo Robert K. Stephen

The next morning off to Sorrento to wander around the streets. I asked Ginevra why she was purchasing so many baby clothes. She replied that they were for her cousin Maria de Mamabravo a childhood friend who was expecting any day. We discovered a stupendous seafood restaurant and had one of the best Neapolitan pizzas ever. Of course, Ginevra knew that Daddy had been supplying all the pizza cheese to Sorrento restaurants and it was made with low quality Sicilian cheese. Ginevra knowing the owner asked for “the other cheese” a code for not my Daddy’s crap. Our seafood dinner was caught only hours before and so damn fresh and tasty. No farm raised crap for Daddy’s little girl. We headed to Capri on the ferry the next morning. The port area was tawdry but we took a taxi to Ano Capri up the mountain and were rewarded with a spectacular view. What a pleasure to stroll on the quiet side streets. We had a relaxed lunch and goodness Ginevra was tucking into the pasta like it was her last meal. I’d love her fat or thin and when I remarked she was getting a bit chubby she smiled in that mischievous way and said that she was “eating for two”. WHAT! I really missed the boat on this one. I had to ask what she just said and the response that she was 4 months pregnant with our “little precious one”. I was dumfounded and could barely say anything. Seeing I was in deep shock she smiled and said that I would be a Daddy just like her Daddy!

A pizza in Sorrento with “the other cheese”: Photo Robert K. Stephen

RKS 2023 Wine: Breaking a Recent String of Chilean Red Wine Mediocrity? Cardboard and Cement?

After attending the Toronto Drink Chile event in November 2022 sponsored by the Wines of Chile I made an effort to sample the wines of the participating wineries and was well rewarded with stellar wines from Las Veletas, Perez Cruz, Miguel Torres Chile and San Pedro Tarapaca. Since then it has been a slide downhill from the non-participating wineries.

Hoping this downhill slide can be arrested we try a Casas Del Toqui 2019 Gran Reserva Cabernet Sauvignon from the Cachapoal Valley.

Aromatics: By the nose it looks like yet another stiff and tight Chilean Cabernet Sauvignon! Black cherry, blackberry and all said and done this wine is so locked up not even parole would seem to liberate it.

Palate: Moderate tannins. One has the impression there is fruit struggling to coat the palate but it is lost in the maze. Slight notes of concrete “compliment” the carboard on the nose I was reluctant to admit to.

Personality: This wine writer is insulting me. I am tightly wound up but why not give me a few years to mature? If you don’t have cellar to let me blossom it is obvious you have no patience to let me mature.

Cellarbility: There are sufficient tannins and repressed fruit that just might blossom like some 1970 Bordeaux but I for one do not think it will happen. It is so barren now I would rather take a risk with a Chilean winery that has already excelled and that I can trust. If a winery gets one chance this winery has blown it. I might adopt a Ronald Reagan “three strikes and you’re out” approach, Casas del Toqui you have two more strikes.

Food Match: You know what this means: a Friday night pizza and burger wine or use it in cooking some coq au vin.

Personality: Dull and boring.

Price: $19.95 (Ontario).

RKS 2023 Wine Rating: 68/100. Jamessuckling.com 93/100.

(Casas del Toqui 2019 Gran Reserva Cabernet Sauvignon, D.O. Cachapoal Valley, Casas de Toqui, Requinoa, Chile, Liquor Control Board of Ontario # 25278, 750 mL, 14%).

“The Penniless Pensioner: Misaligned, Maligned But Marvellous”: Chapter 34: Ginevra Get Your Gun: Is My Sweet Campanian Plum a Ruthless Killer?

Dear reader you must sense I am all shook up. A gangland attack and a cold-blooded execution of two young teenagers Guido and Lino by Don Lupara all in one day. If it wasn’t for my sweet Campanian plum Ginevra, I would be hightailing it out this Neapolitan Truman Capote nightmare.

I was reeling even further when Ginevra said I should be a man and suck it up. As for those teens she made a cruel remark that the little two-timing shits deserved it!

She relented somewhat and with a cuddle and a kiss suggested we go visit the old family summer compound on the Bay of Naples. So the following day flanked by a heavily armed security team we drove off with a picnic lunch and a bottle of Lacryma de Christi red wine from grapes grown in volcanic soils on the slopes of Mount Vesuvius.

The summer compound was in a ramshackle state but on a beautiful beach. Ginevra said it would be ours and would be fully renovated by Daddy and Mommy as our wedding gift.

Our view from the family compound on the Bay of Naples: Photo Robert K. Stephen

Ginerva took her bag from one of the cars and pulled out a machine gun, pistols and an anti-tank weapon. Looking me in eye she said it was time for target practice? Mannequins had been placed at several different distances and before I knew it her barrage of bullets had smashed the mannequins to smithereens. I found it odd she had a Smith and Wesson revolver from the 1860’s. Very Annie Oakley I thought. The last target was an old rowboat that some of the security detail had placed 100 metres off the shore. Ginevra lifted the huge anti-tank weapon like it was a toothpick aimed and blew the rowboat out of the water in a huge yellow and orange explosion. She suggested it was my turn next! I responded perhaps some other day!  With a big smile Ginerva asked what I thought of her skills. I was too dumbfounded to answer. She responded it was time to talk about our future. Indeed it was!

RKS Poetry “Spare Change Needed for Harry”

Spare Change Needed For Harry

Excommunicated by King (yes finally) Charles aka Daddy
Short on cash
Time for a Kardashian strategy
but difficult as no breasts to bare to get millions of depraved stares
so controversy
scandal
tabloid fodder
no skills but paparazzi cultivation
must keep in the limelight
more will be needed than “Spare”
what is your next dare?
back in the royal graces your chances are slim
so give it all up and partner with Kim!

Robert K. Stephen

RKS 2023 Wine: A Rescue from the Chilean Stumble? CODE RED

Red wines from Chile commenced 2023 virtually flying high then a very bad spill with a Viña Del Pedregal Kidia Reserve Carménère 2018. Real bad. Then a weak recovery with a Viña Marty Pacha Reserva 2019 Cabernet Sauvignon.

As Bogart said in Casablanca, “Here’s looking at you, kid.” I am looking at a Vistamar Gran Reserva 2019 Cabernet Sauvignon from the Cachapoal Valley.

Aromatics: Mostly black cherry with blackberry. Generous oak gives a vanilla edge and a hint of a possible creaminess on the palate. The aromatics also give a hint of a wine that is not going to give much fruit on the palate.

Palate: Moderate tannins. Like a nun just graduating to a junior position at the nunnery very stern and cloistered on the palate! The aromatic interpretation of mine as to a hint of creaminess on the palate did not materialize but the hint as to a scarcity of fruit was right on.

Personality: I am not giving much in the way of richness or complexity on the palate. Crudely put I am a tight ass.

Cellarability: Not much to work with here. It will hang in there until 2026 but will not improve in the bottle.

Food match: If you were sitting down in a hospital cafeteria about to drink a glass of this wine you would hear a,” CODE RED” on the hospital intercom meaning in wine writer code a Friday night pizza and burger wine meaning not so great but utilitarian.

Price: $20.95

In a nutshell: The Liquor Control Board of Ontario has this at its wine of the month in its 17December2022 Vintages release. Often that means a kiss of death. Chile can do much better. In this case Chile stumbles along.

RKS 2023 Wine Rating: 85/100. Patricio Tapia 93/100.

(Vistamar Gran Reserva Cabernet Sauvignon 2019, D.O. Cachapoal Valley, Viña Vistamar, Pelequén, Chile, Liquor Control Board of Ontario # 27204, 750 mL, 14%).

RKS Health: Drug Company Reps and Commercial Propaganda

“Drug reps exploit doctors’ sense of reciprocal obligation by leaving small gifts and buying meals, which are accepted by 70% of practicing physicians each year. Even a single meal worth no more than twenty dollars provided by a drug company significantly increases doctors’ prescribing of brand-name drugs that are no more effective than drugs of the same class available as low-cost generics. A review article found all the studies that explored the effect of industry gifts and payments showed a positive effect on physicians’ prescribing. Drug reps are trained to engage doctors in encounters by storing personal information about their interests, children and marital status and by using scientific language to sound knowledgeable.”

John Abramson, MD, BSc, “sickening: How Big Pharma Broke American Health Care and How We Can Repair It”, Mariner Books 2022.

RKS Health: Beware of Drug Companies Clinical Trials!

“First, commercially sponsored clinical trials report favourable conclusions about the sponsor’s drug or device 34 percent more frequently than non-commercially funded trials do. Moreover, when the principal investigator of a published clinical trial has financial ties to the manufacturer of the drug being studied-as is the case in two-thirds of published clinical trials-the odds are three and a half times greater that the study will report that the dug is effective. And amplifying the significant bias found in commercially sponsored studies, 97 percent of the studies most frequently cited in the literature are funded by the industry. This means that more than nineteen out of twenty of the studies having the greatest impact on doctors’ practice are commercially funded-and significantly more likely to show positive results for the sponsor’s product.”

John Abramson MD, MSc: ”sickening: How Big Pharma Broke American Health Care and How We Can Repair It”: Mariner Books 2022.

“The Penniless Pensioner: Misaligned, Maligned But Marvellous” : Chapter 33: Attacked by “Cyclops”: The Execution of Two 14 Year Old’s

I was told by Ginevra all involved in the Neapolitan narcotics trade had nicknames as a matter of pride and to assist in obfuscating identification by law enforcement and tax authorities. You remember that notorious American gangster Al Capone who visited the “big house” not for murder but tax evasion! The names were colourful and of course as I told you earlier Don Lupara was referred to as the Fat Fox. Other names were “Cyclops”, “Hot Blood”, “Hairy Balls”, “Thumb Sucker”, “Big Nose”, “Bloodhound” and the “Slippery One”.

Don Lupara and Cyclops were not getting along. Don Lupara’s territory were the slums of Scampia and bordering Scampia was Piscinola-Marianella. One street on the border of these districts Via Greco was according to Cyclops being hijacked by Don Lupara. Warning shots had been exchanged between Cyclops’ and Don Lupara’s men.

After our little “tour” Don Lupara took me to Scampia’s finest restaurant Satriole’s. A hole in the wall with the best pasta in Campania according to Don Lupara. We had a steaming bowl of pasta sitting in the front of the restaurant. It’s plate glass windows gave us a view of all sorts of “Crime in Action”. After being grilled by Don Lupara about how many grandchildren Ginerva and I would give him we sat up and were ready to leave when I was tackled by one of Don Lupara’s men and Don Lupara by another. A huge burst of machine gun fire shattered the plate glass window followed by an explosion. Bloody bodies and body parts were strewn all over the restaurant. Don Lupara was unscathed and I had a piece of glass graze the back of my head and was bleeding. And that man who had been tailing Ginevra and I in New York and had tackled me lay on the ground with bits of his brain oozing from a crater in what was left of his head. Don Lupara was as cool as a cucumber declaring that a war was now on with Cyclops.

Badly shaken we headed home but one piece of business had to be taken care of. Guido and Lino were two 14-year-old Scampian teenagers who had staged a violent robbery of a bordello run by Don Lupara. Of course, Don Lupara’s men had apprehended the boys within the hour. Don Lupara was struck by their gall and hired them as low-level drug runners. Well at a disco Guido and Lino had made acquaintances with two young ladies and they ran out of cocaine so they ripped off a drug dealer outside of Scampia. This was a fatal mistake. We walked into a room where the boys were tied up full of apologies and contrition. Territory had to be respected as a matter of honour. Don Lupara walked up to them and shot poor Guido and Lino in the head. And I was just thinking Don Lupara might be a decent fellow.

RKS 2023 Wine: Chilean Cabernet Sauvignon: Viña Marty Pacha Cabernet Sauvignon

After tasting some excellent Chilean Carménère I recently hit a wall at high-speed facing a disappointing Viña Del Pedregal 2018 Kidia Reserve Carménère which I opined should be returned to sender. One rogue wine will not deter me from pursuing the Chilean path.

So switching to a Cabernet Sauvignon from Viña Marty, a Pacha Cabernet Sauvignon from Chile’s Central Valley, I can only hope there will be no crashing into the wall!

Aromatics: Earthy if not a bit barnyardy. Predominately blueberry with cherry, blackberry, loganberry and fig jam.

Palate: Blackberry, struggling cherry and cactus pear. Off standish and thin for a Cabernet Sauvignon. Short finish.

Personality: I am arrogant and cold and if Cabernet Sauvignon drinkers don’t appreciate my “unique” quality and “very special terroir” they can go take a flying leap. Other Cabernet Sauvignons can be warm and sensuous but if drinkers don’t think I am the best they fail to understand my Chilean soul!

Cellaring: None. Drink now.

Food Match: As a slight but polite put-off used by many wine writers this is a Friday night burger and pizza wine.

Cost: $16.95 (Ontario).

In a nutshell: Chile can do far better. The old adage applies here. Know your winery!

RKS 2023 Wine Rating: 84/100. Wine Enthusiast 90/100.

(Viña Marty Pacha Reserva Cabernet Sauvignon 2019, D.O. El Valle Central, Viña Marty, Sagrada Familia Curicó, Chile, 750 mL, 14.5%, Liquor Control Board of Ontario # 27199).